Here’s the good news. You’re not alone. There are many thousands who have walked this very path and have managed to successfully find themselves through their storms, by simply realising their self-worth. Yes……You have a powerful worth! You are like a pricey diamond waiting to be dusted and polished; an exquisite butterfly longing to emerge from your cocoon. Behind those layers of limiting beliefs lies a rare masterpiece with a hunger to find herself and make a positive difference in the world. However, for this to be done you must first rearrange your thinking, accept your uniqueness, forgive yourself, find your passion, and create a plan.
It was Dr. David J. Abbott who rightly said, “The mind is the door through which I enter the world of positive change… Positive transformation isn’t an accident; it’s something I do on purpose. I become a positive person by putting positive things into my mind.” It, therefore, means that the very first step needed to drastically elevate your self-worth is to totally abandon any thought of I’m not good enough, ‘I can’t, ‘I don’t know how’ and make a habit out of thinking that you are worthy and deserving of all that is marvellous in this world. As the late Wayne Dyer said “Self-Worth comes from one thing…………thinking you are Worthy”
After accepting that it is your thoughts and beliefs that are creating your limits and you can change them, you now need to find the courage to be authentic, to live your truth, by acknowledging that it is your uniqueness that really makes you special. Why should you feel the need to explain or alter the way you look, think, and feel to fit into other peoples beliefs and perceptions of how it should be? You are in a unique class of your own and as such you were not created to be a photocopy of anybody. Your personality makes you special. Your size makes you special. Your shape makes you special. Your ideas make you special. Your talents make you special. The way you do what you do is what is beautiful about you. You are who you are: unmatched, incomparable and totally different!
Even after changing your thinking and accepting your differences, you cannot fully blossom into who you were truly meant to be, without forgiving yourself. The reality is that no one is perfect. We all have flaws, some more than others. The way I see it, we have two choices. We can either wallow in our guilt and shame or learn from our past mistakes and move on. I choose the latter, what about you? Forgive yourself for the wrong you’ve done to others, forgive others for all they’ve done to you, but mostly, forgive yourself. You were doing the best you could with the awareness you had at the time. They’re not mistakes, they’re life lessons.
Now that you have made peace with your past, you are well on your way to a well-deserved bright and glorious future. You must now think about what that dream life would look like. What’s the thing that makes you excited. The thing that pushes you, the thing you really enjoy doing, the thing that lights you up with joy, makes you bubble up inside and sparks the fire in your heart. What’s your real passion!
So, let’s see, Positive thinking, Check! Self-Forgiveness, Check! Passion, check! It is now time to create a plan. This is a crucial step if you are to meet that place of true self-love, self-fulfilment and self-worth. Set your plan and use it as a guide, take baby steps towards realising your dream and doing what you are most passionate about. Revisit your plan from time to time to ensure that you are on course, but most of all, be flexible, don’t limit yourself by expecting it to go a certain way, be open to other pathways showing up that lead to your goals, but in a different way, a better way, a more creative way.
You cannot be the best you can be for others, even those you love, without first being the best that you can be for yourself. Truly loving others requires you to truly love yourself first. Regardless of where you are now, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, go to your mirror and profess your true love for yourself. You are rare and exceptional. Don’t let anybody make you feel otherwise. Strike that superwoman pose and DO YOU!! Because you’re beautiful and deserving